Once your divorce is finalized, you can turn all your attention to providing your children with the best life possible. While it's not always easy, co-parenting is something you have to get used to.
Both parents involved in a divorce usually have custodial rights granted to them, but the extent of those rights are what's in question. If you want to maximize your time with your child, then there are some things you need to do to show your abilities as a parent.
No matter how hard divorcing parents work to minimize the impact of their break-up on their children, those kids are likely to experience some level of stress. It's important for parents and other adults in children's lives (like coaches and teachers) to be on the lookout for signs of stress.
One of the most important ways to view your child custody disagreements is from the perspective of your child's best interests. Your child's essential needs must be met as stated in the custody plan upon which you agree or the court orders.
Imagine you were married to a spouse who didn't contribute anything to the family. Perhaps you were responsible for all of the child-rearing tasks or you earned all of the money for your household, whereas your spouse lazily did nothing. If your spouse is an irresponsible, disorganized person, it can be terrifying to leave your children with him or her in a joint custody arrangement. How do you know your children will be bathed, fed and cared for in a supportive and nurturing environment?
The thought alone of co-parenting is enough to scare you. You know how important it is to protect your children. At the same time, you worry about your ability to get along with your ex-spouse.
The holiday season is busy for most people. Even if you try to keep things simple, there's a good chance you'll find a few extra activities on your plate. This is particularly true if you're co-parenting during this time of the year.
No one ever said that co-parenting is easy. In fact, it can be downright difficult at times. You hope to move on from your spouse after your divorce, but soon realize that co-parenting means you have to remain in communication with one another.
Divorce can reset people's priorities and create new challenges for life beyond the emotional turmoil. But the main consideration of divorcing parents must always be the top priority. Children often feel disempowered and confused when their home lives are affected or split up by a divorce or separation between parents.
In our last post, we discussed the different responsibilities that parents will have in the wake of a divorce. Taking care of their child -- and performing the duties of a parent in an organized and calm manner in light of a divorce -- is critical when the marriage ends, so finding a way to live your post-divorce life and take care of your child with your ex in an efficient and effective manner is a must.